Basics.

I think this is the most controversial issue I have come across. You either just got out of one, just got into one, are thinking about getting into one with particulars or are advising your friends on theirs. Either way, directly or indirectly you are part of relationships. Allow me to give you my take a.k.a basic rules to being in a relationship. Rule number 1; you are not in a relationship unless it's called out and both of you are aware of it. A lot of people I have met with torn relationships aren't usually surprised at it ending because they just "found" themselves in the situations and didn't know how to say no to being called baby or got carried away and was in too deep by the time they got word of it. Thus there's a lot of indecisiveness. Petty disagreements cause hurt: not posting each other, spending time with other people more, being too busy, still talking to the ex, still talking to the would've-been, still got hoes and most prominently,

And in your travels, so much happens, things go right, many others go wrong and oh well, that's just how life goes. But among those things is hurt and pain. You will get hurt, you will experience pain, and I'm not just talking physical. A little more importantly, you will cause pain, you will disappoint. And there's quite nothing wrong with that, it happens, flawlessness is a myth. But at the end of the day,  assuming there's remorse and that disappointment and pain wasn't intentional  what matters most is what happens next. I'll try describe what should happen next: you should feel bad about what you did, then think " if I could go back in time,I'd do that differently ", then you'll say that you're sorry. You could be forgiven, or not, that shouldn't bother you much, you're sorry and meant your apology. But see,the problem now is, the world is becoming blurry-visioned. You cannot see well what is an

I like to believe the universe is at balance. The good and the bad all cancelling out in alternates. But today, I'd like to ask, is the bad in your universe, in your life being cancelled out by good?no, wait. I'll do you one better, is the good in your life being appreciated,? Not playing blind to all the bad that's happening but life has a lot of good things going on for you. I'll be more particular with the good you'll be reading about today. Opportunities. Opportunities offered are heavy. They accompany with them a love, a trusting in you, a belief in your abilities. There's a whole lotta pain and loss in unappreciated opportunity.  Dating is an opportunity to be with someone, Moving in with someone is an opportunity to a friendship, Internship, Business partnerships, Caretaking, House keeping, Baby sitting. Every interaction with people we make are opportunities to do much more that we sometimes take for granted. That we sometimes don't appreciate enough

There's like  on the down low a million articles, quotes, songs or poetry that's encouraging trial. Encouraging you to go against odds and just TRY. But let's jog for a minute, say you try tried to run faster but still lost the race, basically anything you try and fail. What does it matter? I'm not saying it's not good that you tried, wait, that's precisely what I'm saying. Trial is the definite equal to inadequacy.and no, not enough just won't do. Now turn the brightness up and let me tell you why you failed,at least majorly why. Quite simple really: you failed because to you,it was just an attempt, you didn't want it enough, you were just TRYING. See, trial comes with it the comfort of it's aight if you do not succeed, that it's normal to fail. That's why I'm proclaiming myself, blasphemize if you'll let me coin, the anti-try. That's why it's easy for people to go round doing so many random things wrong wit

Immense writings in forms of songs, poetry, articles and books have been done by remarkable persons over the years. Trick is, love seems to be different from one expression of it to another. I agree with all of them however. Did I say all? So the question is, has love evolved?, is Iove dependent on circumstance? Or whatever you're thinking. Tell you what, Love is what you make of it.Fuck what you've read about love, fuck what you've deduced from watching films about love, to hell with what they said about love. Think of Love as a god( to be gender sensitive, sometimes god is a woman.and no I do not mean goddess ). And this god has reincarnated in you Picasso, Davinci maybe even Eminem or whoever you admire as a creator of masterpieces. And your relationship is a canvas. You have the ability to make out of it whatever you want. Make love what you need it to be, make it what you desire of it. Own love. See, the moment you start making it what you read or heard you're