Basics.

The question usually is why I called my blog Basics. The answer is rather simple, the things I talk about are things we already know about, they're basic. All I do is provide a little retrospect and sometimes different perspective. I discovered that we know so much, but knowing only implies understanding, it does not mean it. What I'm going to be writing about below are things you know, and I'm sorry about the monotony but as you read this, it's of import that you pay attention; that you understand. So recently, one of the most urban and gorgeous person I know was abused, and talking to her I kept realizing that it's not that she didn't know, it's not naivety that gets people abused. It really isn't. As children of God, I find that humans, like their father, are very judgemental. And sitting in the seat of the judge means you feel pure, exempt from the happenings of those you judge. We convince ourselves that we would handle things better if

 When I was writing about diversity I kept thinking about compatibility. What kind of people are we most compatible with? And while the answer can be as broad and as definite as you want it to be the two basics are; someone who is as similar to you as possible or someone who is as different as you are to them.  Now the thinking behind the one that is similar to you is familiarity. Because this person is similar to yourself, you're comfortable and predictable, less anxiety you might think. But I know what you are thinking, doesn't that just mean you are with yourself inside your comfort zone, won't you ever explore news. Actually, you can explore together, so it does make sense. On top of which they get your anime references. Now the other side is, someone different, and yes I also know what you are thinking here. someone different means you might not entirely enjoy the things you enjoy and that they might not enjoy the half time they spend with you because well, you like we

Like the third or fourth step to when someone tells you they love you, then comes the hardest question, why do you love me? Some say if you can't answer that question, the love is a fraud. Others just go wild and will not leave the paper blank so you'll get so many reasons, some that don't even make sense, but love doesn't either so it's okay. I mean, there's an unsummable number of things that could draw you to someone, so many things and yet just one or two things. sometimes it's subconsciously decided but now often it's things we see and experience. (Before you go on, scroll to the comments section and tell me things that drew you to your current or previous lovers) Thus the fight between inner beauty and the physical arose. Like God, considering some of us are His children, we claim to look at what's beneath, the heart we say. This includes similarity of people’s beliefs and, to a lesser extent, similarity of personality traits as well

I think this is the most controversial issue I have come across. You either just got out of one, just got into one, are thinking about getting into one with particulars or are advising your friends on theirs. Either way, directly or indirectly you are part of relationships. Allow me to give you my take a.k.a basic rules to being in a relationship. Rule number 1; you are not in a relationship unless it's called out and both of you are aware of it. A lot of people I have met with torn relationships aren't usually surprised at it ending because they just "found" themselves in the situations and didn't know how to say no to being called baby or got carried away and was in too deep by the time they got word of it. Thus there's a lot of indecisiveness. Petty disagreements cause hurt: not posting each other, spending time with other people more, being too busy, still talking to the ex, still talking to the would've-been, still got hoes and most prominently,