Basics.

Quality time isn’t just about the time spent together, the ‘quality’ in there means something. It doesn’t matter that you are in love with each other, quality has to be perpetuated. I agree that the love languages are meant to incorporate each other but lately, I’ve been wondering if each on its own can serve a purpose in relationships. Of course not while neglecting the other love languages but also independently. And in my interactions, I find often that quality time is often downplayed, and I figured, are they doing it right? So this addresses that. Hopefully. At its core, quality time is about connection. It's those moments that bring us closer, creating memories and strengthening bonds. It's not just about physical proximity either; it's about emotional closeness. It's when you're fully present with someone, sharing experiences, and engaging in meaningful conversations. Quality time is the backbone of any strong relationship. It fosters understanding, build...

The question usually is why I called my blog Basics. The answer is rather simple, the things I talk about are things we already know about, they're basic. All I do is provide a little retrospect and sometimes different perspective. I discovered that we know so much, but knowing only implies understanding, it does not mean it. What I'm going to be writing about below are things you know, and I'm sorry about the monotony but as you read this, it's of import that you pay attention; that you understand. So recently, one of the most urban and gorgeous person I know was abused, and talking to her I kept realizing that it's not that she didn't know, it's not naivety that gets people abused. It really isn't. As children of God, I find that humans, like their father, are very judgemental. And sitting in the seat of the judge means you feel pure, exempt from the happenings of those you judge. We convince ourselves that we would handle things better if ...

Like the third or fourth step to when someone tells you they love you, then comes the hardest question, why do you love me? Some say if you can't answer that question, the love is a fraud. Others just go wild and will not leave the paper blank so you'll get so many reasons, some that don't even make sense, but love doesn't either so it's okay. I mean, there's an unsummable number of things that could draw you to someone, so many things and yet just one or two things. sometimes it's subconsciously decided but now often it's things we see and experience. (Before you go on, scroll to the comments section and tell me things that drew you to your current or previous lovers) Thus the fight between inner beauty and the physical arose. Like God, considering some of us are His children, we claim to look at what's beneath, the heart we say. This includes similarity of people’s beliefs and, to a lesser extent, similarity of personality traits as well ...

Folklore and under our beds is where monsters lived. Went a little further and featured in our nightmares on those bad nights. Some of us, or at least most of us found comfort in believing that monsters didn't exist, life was easier like that. That it was all tell and tale. So when we woke up in the morning with scars, bleeding, it had to be anything else but imaginary beasts. So we blamed everything and everyone else. At the end of the day, the capacity to hold blame and guilt was most massive within ourselves. So the spectrum shifted. It was us. We were to blame. So slowly, the world wasn't scary for monsters anymore. They didn't exist afterall. So they crawled out from under our bed and from our nightmares into our lives. They became family, we fell in love with them, they became friends, they became the society. They grew ferocious and developed appetite. They became invincible, they didn't exist anyway so. So they emotionally and verbally and sexually and physi...

I think this is the most controversial issue I have come across. You either just got out of one, just got into one, are thinking about getting into one with particulars or are advising your friends on theirs. Either way, directly or indirectly you are part of relationships. Allow me to give you my take a.k.a basic rules to being in a relationship. Rule number 1; you are not in a relationship unless it's called out and both of you are aware of it. A lot of people I have met with torn relationships aren't usually surprised at it ending because they just "found" themselves in the situations and didn't know how to say no to being called baby or got carried away and was in too deep by the time they got word of it. Thus there's a lot of indecisiveness. Petty disagreements cause hurt: not posting each other, spending time with other people more, being too busy, still talking to the ex, still talking to the would've-been, still got hoes and most prominently, ...

Immense writings in forms of songs, poetry, articles and books have been done by remarkable persons over the years. Trick is, love seems to be different from one expression of it to another. I agree with all of them however. Did I say all? So the question is, has love evolved?, is Iove dependent on circumstance? Or whatever you're thinking. Tell you what, Love is what you make of it.Fuck what you've read about love, fuck what you've deduced from watching films about love, to hell with what they said about love. Think of Love as a god( to be gender sensitive, sometimes god is a woman.and no I do not mean goddess ). And this god has reincarnated in you Picasso, Davinci maybe even Eminem or whoever you admire as a creator of masterpieces. And your relationship is a canvas. You have the ability to make out of it whatever you want. Make love what you need it to be, make it what you desire of it. Own love. See, the moment you start making it what you read or heard you're...