How to identify toxic people.

You ever breathe something and it chokes you? That's how you know something in the air is toxic, or at least majorly. Lately toxicity has become scentless, you need way more than your nose to tell if you are breathing in the right stuff.. But who's the scientist here because I'm not talking about airal contamination. You see, in the same way there's toxicity in the air, so is there in humanity. There are people who are just not good for you. And i, a not yet qualified doctor recommend that you get off that, it's bad for you. But I'll tell you how another day, hoping the toxicity around you doesn't kill you by then. Instead, we'll revert to step one, identification of these toxicities. Even though it's relatively easily to spot toxic people, sometimes like perfume that chokes you, it's not that easy to point it out. So here's a user's guide do identify toxic people. Keep in mind, it cuts across all people, your lover isn't allowed to portray these traits, neither is your family or anyone else, they are toxic, no excuses.

There's always something going wrong in life, it's not perfect. But some people are always looking at these. Always pointing out how you're doing something wrong, how unperforming you are, how not pleased they are. And don't get me wrong, criticism is appreciated, but positive criticism is a thing so that's not the excuse. All the same, this 'criticism' should be alongside acknowledgement of milestones made. Congratulations and cheers to go on. So if there's someone around you who's always complaining, I'm sorry but, that's my number one red flag.

Everyone has problems in their lives, and we all wanna talk it out with someone, get advice, get help and have a shoulder to lean on because phew, this shit is tiring. So I advice reciprocation. Listen to him/her and they'll listen to you. A two way lane if you will. But some people only hit you up when they have shit going down wrong for them. Calling up to get you to do something for them, lend them money, talk to I dunno who for them never once calling you up to check on you. Everytime you're together, they're always talking about them, things happening in their lives. They don't listen to you, always cutting you off. That's toxicity and it'll kill you.

Getting hurt is almost inevitable, humans are horrible monstrosities. Not intentional most of the time i assure you but even people that love us, people we love will scar us once in a while. And don't you dare forget that you are human, and that you too are a horrible monstrosity. You hurt people too, I know sometimes you don't mean to but it happens. There's toxicity when this one guy is always getting hurt. Who's side of the story is always convenient enough for them to be the victim. They're always the ones been done wrong. I mean hey there angel. It's gonna be the same, they'll hurt you and play victim to someone else. Stay away from them. I understand how innocent this form of toxicity is but it's just as lethal.

Entitlement to our own points of view is almost a human right now. We can't all parallel think, life would be boring. So once in a while, whether about if Messi is greater than Ronaldo(hey there Eric, I still Stan Messi is the best of all time.) or about which luxury car really floors it or about the wildest things in life, we'll disagree with our friends often enough. And it's healthy. Until you have a person who won't take your deviance. People that get angry because you disagree with them, people who won't finish arguments with you, people always thinking you dumb because of thinking things aren't the way they think they are. People who constantly expect you to agree with them are a toxicity that will stunt your mental growth. And you need to grow in that area to make it through life.

We hang around people because of the vibe they give. We associate with them because like Deekay, they make you happy, or they make you laugh or they make you go out more or are just simply always comfortable enough to be around.  And there's so many excuses that will come up but you just can't afford to be around people who's vibe is dark and angry, I'm not talking about goth. There are people who are always sad and always angry. Always irritated about this or that and you are always alert because they'll shout anytime now. That's toxicity you don't wanna be around. It'll rub off you, you'll turn into an angry person, into a sad person. Sometimes no matter whats going on, you just wanna chill. Having angry people around you won't help with that. Keep your vibe toxic-free.

Sometimes we get lucky in life, and like Cole said, "What good is first class if my niggas can't sit?" So we have people who are only around us when they're at level with us. But everytime they go up the ladder even for a while, you cease to exist, they don't reach out, they don't help and when they come down, y'all besties again. And I dunno about you but that's sickening for me. Brotherhood across all genders dictates having each other's backs, uplifting each other, going to the top together. And it's toxic for you if they aren't helping you become better, if you aren't helping each other get better. Stay away from it.

I assure you, we'd go on for days if we discussed different morphs the devil has taken, but this are a few that I have come across.
It goes without saying, quarantine yourself, stay healthy physically, financially and socially. Stay away from people that abuse you in even the littlest ways. Sometimes how you react to toxicity gives them the chance to make it look like your reaction was wrong. It wasn't. Cut them off because you won't heal around the same toxicity that made you ill.

Hello again, this goes out to all the Monsters out there.
I know you know you possess some if not all of these toxicities, you're hurting people, and while people deserve to be hurt, some don't. People you love think you don't love them, people will leave you. And being a lonely monster sucks. Seek professional help, or be the pro yourself and help yourself get rid of these toxicities. It won't happen in a day, but effort will be appreciated.