Advise

Whew, i just tried to count how many decisions i have made today and they are not just a lot. Its like every minute, consciously or subconsciously, we're always making a decision. To do or not to do, to move or not to, to speak or not to, to be or not to be(which is always the big question(see what i did there?). Everything has an alternative to it and choosing which is heavy duty. Now most of the things you're thinking are subtle, you can almost always decide which without having to REALLY think about it. But as love progresses, there are bigger calls, bigger decisions that need you to not only think about what to do or say but to really evaluate.

But we don't always know how to go about these, so like fellowship was meant to be, we seek advice. We seek outside opinion looking to make the best decision, to have the best outcome. And wit globalisation coming at us, therapy and professional help is becoming digitized as well. So you can get pro help or sub pro help from the comfort of your home. But then again, my issue is, you can't tell if it's really pro or just amateur playing pretend. And please don't tell me you can tell, you and i both know bad ideas make more sense than good ideas so. Im not discouraging advice sharing across the internet, actually its kinda educative, i like that. But I'll highlight my problem in a few words.

We all prefer advice from people who have been in situations we've been in, or people who's friend's friend was in the same situation. And yes, experience is the best teacher so they ought to have more expertise on this, but do they?
Anyways that's not even my point. What a lot of us don't understand is that life is never parallel. The way things happen to you can never happen to someone else in that exact manner. Similar things will happen, but your reaction, your feel won't be similar to it happening to someone else. So how you tackle it may not be how it works for them. Don't get me wrong, it might and i hope it will if you're their guiding counsel.

But understand this, how they tackled it should be only but an option to how you plan to tackle yours. Remember decision making is a chain, if it works now does it work in the long run as well, and please don't tell me you're not a runner. Because if it doesn't, you only have regret. Little too late then will be. So you'll come across numerous quotes about certain things in life, and you'll relate quite too much to some of them but please oh please, be smart enough to know that the circumstances leading to their deciding how they decide aren't the same for you. They have variables hiding under almost every word of that quote, that may not be you so be smart enough to know these as only options to how you might individually decide to work. Not because you saw it on a quote but because it makes sense, because it seemed like the best course of action.