Overnight Parenthood

The modern mother and father are supposed to be in a word better at it. You know with all the improvements and steps society has taken between then and now surely must have accounted for something. Statistically speaking the average adult either has parent-related trauma or knows someone who is and while that has somehow been found as a bonding base for humorists, it goes a lot deeper than anyone will want to admit. But by the bible, all of us will swear that we will do right by our children, that when we do get there, we will get ready, that our children will be the most emotionally healthy, or at least that’s the intention. But you see there are a lot of assumptions in that swear. 

One is the assumption that all this happens at our timing, it doesn’t always. The rate of teenage pregnancies for instance in the country are soaring and I’ll assure you these kids did not intend. But yeah, its nice for you that that is not you, but are you that sure about how things will turn in a month or so? See baby, this is not a perfect world, so what if. Being an empath, you can almost feel the shock that shudders when unready teens and adults find out they are pregnant. Being subconsciously ready cushions you from this shock. 

The other assumption is that previous parenthood generations intended for their children to turn out the way they did or that they are even aware of the trauma they caused. You see a number of this triggers are unintentional and while that doesn’t invalidate the trauma, it sheds light on the question, how do you intend to be better, what are you going to do differently, and no, everything is not an answer. You have to have more conversations about trauma and how things would go differently, exploration gives both you and your conversation partner access to information, you know how to deal with trauma and even how to avoid it.

Thirdly, we assume that with age this information just comes to you or when you do get there you acquire this information somehow. I will tell you that that prebirth counselling covers more physical care of your child than their emotional. This is information you have to gather long before you get there, this are things you should know by now and not even for your own sake but for compound parenting. Where you support your siblings and friends through their parenthood journeys. What we might call collective knowledge, in that because you know it, they know it and therefore your kids and their kids benefit.  

Be actively involved in parent discussions, talk about it, become a better parent even if not yet.