Let me know anyway

 I look to the Bible as more than just a religious text but more of a self-help book. Being not as much of a believer and still having b being brought up in a Christian family means I learnt and benefit from the bible in more than just its religious form. One of my most internalized lessons is from prayer and how it works. 

We pray to a supreme being, not because they don't know what our needs are, not because they lack understanding of what would make your life better but because it's essential for you to acknowledge what you need. Prayer is so much more than just the prayer itself. there's the presentation of how humble you have to be to pray, the form you take and how you present it(tone, choice of words).

Carrying that out of context makes me realise that people are not oblivious half the time and the other half genuinely don't know. As such, literally, everyone will tell you how important communication is. Communication is important for even things that should be common sense or obvious. In the words of my mother while she hurls something in your direction, "turns out common sense isn't common". But voicing serves more than just to inform, voicing looks to reinforce, because sometimes you know what you should do but just aren't sure they want you to do that. That's why it goes an awfully long way to comfort those insecurities. Tell him/her what you want, how you feel, and what they should say. 

it's sad that you have to wait for someone to struggle with figuring out what to do when you could just tell them what you want, what they could do and how you feel. it's not a cheat and it doesn't make things any easier than they need to be. So if someone is trying to court you, it goes a long way to guide them through it, it makes sex a lot more pleasurable to not expect that they know what they should do but rather guide them and tell them what you want and like, it makes life so much better to let people that wronged you to know that they did.

Like I said, it's not about the prayer, it's about what's in it. they don't have to act on the information you provided, they just need to know. If he falls short of a lover, it's not because he didn't know what to do, rather he chose not to.