The Diversity Complex

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 When I was writing about diversity I kept thinking about compatibility. What kind of people are we most compatible with? And while the answer can be as broad and as definite as you want it to be the two basics are; someone who is as similar to you as possible or someone who is as different as you are to them. 

Now the thinking behind the one that is similar to you is familiarity. Because this person is similar to yourself, you're comfortable and predictable, less anxiety you might think. But I know what you are thinking, doesn't that just mean you are with yourself inside your comfort zone, won't you ever explore news. Actually, you can explore together, so it does make sense. On top of which they get your anime references. Now the other side is, someone different, and yes I also know what you are thinking here. someone different means you might not entirely enjoy the things you enjoy and that they might not enjoy the half time they spend with you because well, you like weirds according to them(not that there's anything wrong with loving weirds)

And for a while I couldn't come up with an answer, then someone said, if you like them you learn to like the things they do like and they learn to like the things you like, and they called that Compromise. And I smiled but wait, don't you like someone because of things they like that you already know about, is it compromise if you decide it before you like them? I thought not. So I'm back in square one, which is better, which relationships whether platonic or romantic last longer? What is the best fit for you?

Of course everyone will agree that the answer is subjective for everyone so we might not entirely agree, but listen. We all like what we like, and go for it fam, Sauti Sol said, ''do what makes you happy, do what makes you smile'' and I agree with them.

So a new issue arose, how do you cope with the diversity complex. Patience is the answer I'll give, you never know, you might fall in love with the things you consider weird. But remember, at no point in your interaction should you even subconsciously require them to like the things that you do, do not try to make them you, because then, what the difference between you a Villanous Invader, like Darth Vader(that rhymes)? Do not become someone you are not for anyone else, do not lose yourself. 



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