Fault

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Whenever something wrong happens, to begin the fixing part or moving on part, blame has to be issued. So, whose fault is it?
Here’s good news, there’s always going to be an else. Someone or something that you can blame, surprisingly at no extra cost at all. Notice I said extra. Now I get how with nothing to lose how easy that would be to do. But what’s rarely ever in the picture is the impact of someone or something else carrying your blame, the fact that fault does serve a purpose.
See, when you accept blame, the subconscious asks “why” and in turn answers the “how” which is the problem. The manifestation of this is the guilt you feel. And because that sucks, your subconscious again goes ahead to formulate an anti-again parameter so it doesn’t happen again. What you may choose to call fixing the problem. Unfortunately, the past cannot be fixed, at least until they invent a time machine or discover a portal to the past. But basically it won’t happen again.
Not accepting fault and the subsequent feelings of feeling awful about what happened means that you’re okay that whatever happened did happen, thus you never really get to find out what’s wrong with you. You don’t get fixing. In the spirit of Kipchoge, the long run means that you end up doing the same mistake over and over hereby a screw up a little more often than you really are.

Fault for your brain is a form of Correctional Aid but I understand the fear of consequence. Think about it though, don’t you think you deserve it? Whatever their form of punishment is, take it, you deserve it, it makes you better.

Let's go back to the Basics.

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