Relationships, the Titanic

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We all want forever, i mean at least for the things we enjoy and the people we enjoy being with. Relationships is such situations, once you're in a good relationship, you never really want it to end, you always want to wake up next to them, to have more dates, to visit more places together, to be happier. But you see, the tragedy is, nothing lasts forever, so we make things last for as long as we can. I know you know that, but do you really understand that you know it?
When we talk about relationships, all people think about is how it begins and the course of it, call it hopeful thinking even. And thinking about the end might be considered anticipating it or you could choose to call it being thoughtful. In relationships, we always hope it ends well if it ever does because in the moment we are so in love with this person. So the technicals of how it ends and possibly the when are left to hope. Choosing to focus on the now, and not really the end. And Hope is such a bleak context. 
Therefore we overlook the signs of the end, we do our best to ignore the iceberg until we hit it(thus my title). So then my question becomes, do you know when it's time? Do you see it when it's time to appreciate what you've had and leave? Or do we have to wait until we're fighting and cheating and absolutely disgusted by each other for it to end with our sextape leaked?
You should be able to see the end coming, you both should and be ready for it. The telltales of a dying relationship(death isn't as ugly a word as you think it is) are diversely in the multitudes, so I can only mention a few. You however need to understand at the same time, the telltale should as often come from within than you suddenly trying to justify the end by faulting your partner and being scrutiny to shift guilt and blame. It's okay that its ending, it should have been worth it.
If you ever notice a shift in how you're feeling, talk about it with your partner, if you feel more apart, it's probably fixable but don't try too hard if that's not what you really want. If you feel more irritable by things you previously enjoyed, if you lose trust in your partner or if you become insecure suddenly. 
Don't burden yourself or partner with a relationship where you are constantly fixing something.
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  1. orwajoy💕September 30, 2021 at 3:46 PM

    You do know when it's time to leave, when you're not getting what you want/deserve, blinded by the idea of what could be, hesitant to be alone or start over with someone new. It can be black and white but we do create the grey areas to delay the inevitable.

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  2. AnonymousJanuary 6, 2022 at 3:46 PM

    What if you built your whole life around this relationship and your partner, lost all friends and now all you got is them. They made you fully dependable on them and leaving just sounds impossible.
    What if you really love them and you're the one who keeps messing up, you're always the one saying sorry. But you still don't want to lose them. And even though you keep trying to be better it's just never enough for them they just don't see it.
    What if you both made promises to each other. And he said he'll be with you through the highs and the lows, and nothing will ever come between the two of you, and that he'll always be ready to talk and fix anything. But then he starts acting up but you still believe he loves you and wants to fix this.

    Idk, but love really hurts

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