Basics.

You ever breathe something and it chokes you? That's how you know something in the air is toxic, or at least majorly. Lately toxicity has become scentless, you need way more than your nose to tell if you are breathing in the right stuff.. But who's the scientist here because I'm not talking about airal contamination. You see, in the same way there's toxicity in the air, so is there in humanity. There are people who are just not good for you. And i, a not yet qualified doctor recommend that you get off that, it's bad for you. But I'll tell you how another day, hoping the toxicity around you doesn't kill you by then. Instead, we'll revert to step one, identification of these toxicities. Even though it's relatively easily to spot toxic people, sometimes like perfume that chokes you, it's not that easy to point it out. So here's a user's guide do identify toxic people. Keep in mind, it cuts across all people, your lover isn't allowed

Folklore and under our beds is where monsters lived. Went a little further and featured in our nightmares on those bad nights. Some of us, or at least most of us found comfort in believing that monsters didn't exist, life was easier like that. That it was all tell and tale. So when we woke up in the morning with scars, bleeding, it had to be anything else but imaginary beasts. So we blamed everything and everyone else. At the end of the day, the capacity to hold blame and guilt was most massive within ourselves. So the spectrum shifted. It was us. We were to blame. So slowly, the world wasn't scary for monsters anymore. They didn't exist afterall. So they crawled out from under our bed and from our nightmares into our lives. They became family, we fell in love with them, they became friends, they became the society. They grew ferocious and developed appetite. They became invincible, they didn't exist anyway so. So they emotionally and verbally and sexually and physi

I think this is the most controversial issue I have come across. You either just got out of one, just got into one, are thinking about getting into one with particulars or are advising your friends on theirs. Either way, directly or indirectly you are part of relationships. Allow me to give you my take a.k.a basic rules to being in a relationship. Rule number 1; you are not in a relationship unless it's called out and both of you are aware of it. A lot of people I have met with torn relationships aren't usually surprised at it ending because they just "found" themselves in the situations and didn't know how to say no to being called baby or got carried away and was in too deep by the time they got word of it. Thus there's a lot of indecisiveness. Petty disagreements cause hurt: not posting each other, spending time with other people more, being too busy, still talking to the ex, still talking to the would've-been, still got hoes and most prominently,

And in your travels, so much happens, things go right, many others go wrong and oh well, that's just how life goes. But among those things is hurt and pain. You will get hurt, you will experience pain, and I'm not just talking physical. A little more importantly, you will cause pain, you will disappoint. And there's quite nothing wrong with that, it happens, flawlessness is a myth. But at the end of the day,  assuming there's remorse and that disappointment and pain wasn't intentional  what matters most is what happens next. I'll try describe what should happen next: you should feel bad about what you did, then think " if I could go back in time,I'd do that differently ", then you'll say that you're sorry. You could be forgiven, or not, that shouldn't bother you much, you're sorry and meant your apology. But see,the problem now is, the world is becoming blurry-visioned. You cannot see well what is an

I like to believe the universe is at balance. The good and the bad all cancelling out in alternates. But today, I'd like to ask, is the bad in your universe, in your life being cancelled out by good?no, wait. I'll do you one better, is the good in your life being appreciated,? Not playing blind to all the bad that's happening but life has a lot of good things going on for you. I'll be more particular with the good you'll be reading about today. Opportunities. Opportunities offered are heavy. They accompany with them a love, a trusting in you, a belief in your abilities. There's a whole lotta pain and loss in unappreciated opportunity.  Dating is an opportunity to be with someone, Moving in with someone is an opportunity to a friendship, Internship, Business partnerships, Caretaking, House keeping, Baby sitting. Every interaction with people we make are opportunities to do much more that we sometimes take for granted. That we sometimes don't appreciate enough

There's like  on the down low a million articles, quotes, songs or poetry that's encouraging trial. Encouraging you to go against odds and just TRY. But let's jog for a minute, say you try tried to run faster but still lost the race, basically anything you try and fail. What does it matter? I'm not saying it's not good that you tried, wait, that's precisely what I'm saying. Trial is the definite equal to inadequacy.and no, not enough just won't do. Now turn the brightness up and let me tell you why you failed,at least majorly why. Quite simple really: you failed because to you,it was just an attempt, you didn't want it enough, you were just TRYING. See, trial comes with it the comfort of it's aight if you do not succeed, that it's normal to fail. That's why I'm proclaiming myself, blasphemize if you'll let me coin, the anti-try. That's why it's easy for people to go round doing so many random things wrong wit

Immense writings in forms of songs, poetry, articles and books have been done by remarkable persons over the years. Trick is, love seems to be different from one expression of it to another. I agree with all of them however. Did I say all? So the question is, has love evolved?, is Iove dependent on circumstance? Or whatever you're thinking. Tell you what, Love is what you make of it.Fuck what you've read about love, fuck what you've deduced from watching films about love, to hell with what they said about love. Think of Love as a god( to be gender sensitive, sometimes god is a woman.and no I do not mean goddess ). And this god has reincarnated in you Picasso, Davinci maybe even Eminem or whoever you admire as a creator of masterpieces. And your relationship is a canvas. You have the ability to make out of it whatever you want. Make love what you need it to be, make it what you desire of it. Own love. See, the moment you start making it what you read or heard you're

Might as well be the cracking of the Davinci Code. If you ever honestly want know what's actually going on with  someone( spoiler; the Davinci code is another Basic ) All you have to do is add really . If you ask someone what they're doing and what they're really doing, bet your bottom dollar the answers will vary, and that's just an instance, add really to every question with a possibility of evasion from the actual and you'll see. But I'm going to focus on one question in particular., rather a particular concept. How you are,how you feel so, "How are you, really ?/what's wrong,  really ?/is anything the matter,  really ?" along a bunch of same concept questions posed. Now the twist here becomes, instead of you posing this question to someone else or somebody posing it to you, you're asking yourself how am I  really . I'll get to why in a short while. Little detour. Let's agree on a few things.it's alright to react, it's

I swear it has got to be the hardest thing to pick a shoe or a dress or a car or favorite song or film. You find one you like but then there's that black dress, the beats to this song are dapper, the lyrics to the other however are mind blowing, the story line to this film is waaay better but that other one has Efron or Ms.Yara Shahidi in it(insert your celebrity crush), this car has waaay better mileage than the other one but then this one is a four-wheeler, and aaaaargh why are there so many good things existing at the same time. How tf do people pick favorites, how do people know what to go with and what not to go with? Humans are in parallel existence with this fact as well. There's always going to be a better person. Taller, Richer( not bringing into consideration Mr. Gates or Mtukufu Moi ) Smarter, Funnier, one that dresses better, Accents that are love, some are more considerate than others, bigger dicks , cuter faces, and oh God the diversity of the human race is so

So everytime I disagree with someone on something, most of the population reverts to some phrase that's becoming unnervingly annoying everytime I hear it. They say 'everyone is entitled to their opinion'. And yeah,it's true. I fully understand that we cannot all have an agreed upon view on happenings and goings. But that phrase,at least around circles I've rubbed shoulders with(why must our shoulders touch tho?), they use it to get away from the conversation, to avoid admittance that they're wrong, to remain right. I understand. People should however understand that while we're all entitled to our opinion, some of these opinions are just wrong and absurd. And while it goes against everything egos and pride stand for, it's alright to accept that we need to admit knowledge(sometimes from the most unlikely of people and things) and that opinions we formulate should be flexible. That situations change, and people do too and our opinions and judgements of t

"at least now, I've learnt not to give things my all because oh well, the turn out is always the same," said a friend of mine the other day. And this, literally threw me back, still getting headaches from the concussion. Like what's the point to anything if you aren't giving it your all. Let's say love (his context), whether we want to admit it or not, love isn't a forever thing. While yeah sometimes it does do an extra month, that's the longest it'll take. We have to learn to make the most out if this couple months else what's the goddamn point? Life in general doesn't last that long either. Think of it as a roller coaster, one ticket one ride and that's it. You focus more on the fun and the screams, than on going "dang it" after the ride and falling into depression because a heart connection with a fun instrument that didn't care broke. The instrument is your boyfriend or girlfriend if you're missing it.i honestly

While we all ran with half Fran Lebowitz's quote, we didn't quite get it. Fran said 'Think before you speak and read before you think' but we've all told or been told to  think before we speak. But do we really? While it mostly intends to mean, "make sure your message is intellectual enough and that it's on motion" the aspect of impact is always left out. Do you take a minute to think about the impact your utterances could cause. Because most often, shit 'slips' and we say pretty hurtful things. While thank God apologies are a thing, bandages don't heal bullet holes. People will say it's fine, but it's never really fine. Said shit will linger, insecurities will resurface or become shinier, esteems will be slain.( Oh I said slips in qoutes because that's not a slip you dumb ass, it's because you didn't think before you went on verbal rampage. ) Victims then won't stop wondering what else goes on in your mind becau

Show me, amongst you earthlings or among the terrestials, anything or anyone more attractive, more frighteningly powerful than one that knows what they want. Know what you want from a situation, from a person, from a conversation, from the universe and I kid you not that the society will have orgasms from your presence. In every situation you could ever be in or think about, you ought to get or give something. Instances? Sure; It's bad (who am I kidding, it's dumb and suicidal) to go into a relationship with someone who's goals are unclear, whose expectations from the relationship are unhighlighted, because they'll settle for anything or worse they get itchy feet( you should rea lly see the artic le abo ut Better ), they might not want the relationship and that is selfharm right there because you get hurt, your wants just got sabotaged. If you yourself don't know what you fancy from the relationship, you settle for whatever comes and often than not, it's less

Being in the Anno Domini era, a lot of things are expected to be pretty basic . Today I'll do outdoor camouflage on a single item. See sometimes we are outdoors for specified purposes or involuntarily. But since there aren't enough t-shirts on sale that say don't appro ach me or some of us horrible at pulling the RBF, we instead resolve to different basic identifiers, one of which I bring into focus today. Earphones or Headphones . Sure, the invention of these brought about music mobility but over time purpose has been diversified. Earphones and Headphones are now used to shut the world out, in light of how much of a shithole we're turning our planet into. So depending on where you at or the expectation, earphones usage is broken down further. One earphone on basically means hey, if you have i nformation that you think I need or I might need, I am open to hearing you out. I gotta need it for you to approach me tho, if not, uhm, don't approach me where else b